Mom Guilt: The Battle, The Myths, The Antidote

Mom Guilt: The Battle, The Myths, The Antidote

Guilt: every mom's uninvited companion. It pops up unannounced, plants itself firmly on your shoulder and starts whispering sour nothings into your ear. "Are you sure you're doing enough?" "Is it okay to take some time for yourself?" Today, we'll shed some light on mom guilt. So, grab a cup of something warm, sit back and let's debunk these myths together.

Myth 1: Good Moms Never Take Time for Themselves

Oh, honey, who spun this tale? We all need a moment to breathe, to just be. We're not suggesting a month-long retreat in Bali (unless that's feasible, in which case, sign us up!). We're talking about small pockets of peace in your day. Maybe that's a steaming cup of coffee in silence or a few pages of a good book. Either way, remember that a rested mom is a happy mom, and happy moms raise happy kids.

Myth 2: 'No' is a Dirty Word

In the dictionary of Mom Guilt, 'No' often gets a bad rap. But let's set the record straight. 'No' is not a dirty word. It's a word that respects your boundaries and time. It's a word that teaches your children about consent and the importance of valuing others' time and energy.

Myth 3: Perfect is the Only Acceptable Standard

Ever noticed how 'perfect' and 'pressure' start with the same letter? Coincidence? We think not! In the real world, parenting is more about "improv" than "perfection." As a mom, it's okay to not know all the answers, to make mistakes, to show your kids that being human is perfectly imperfect.

Myth 4: If You're Not Worried, You're Not Caring Enough

Worrying doesn't come with the job description of "Mom." Yes, it's natural to care and concern yourself with your child's wellbeing, but constant worrying? That's not caring, that's draining. Replace worry with action where possible, and trust in your ability to handle whatever comes your way.

In the grand scheme of motherhood, you're doing better than you think. Each day, you're showing up, you're loving, you're trying, and that’s more than enough. As for the guilt? Consider it a squatter in your heart's real estate – and it's time to serve an eviction notice.

Whenever that pesky guilt tries to sneak in, counter it with a moment of joy, a memory that makes you smile, or even better, a creative pursuit from The Mom's Bucket List. After all, who has time for guilt when you're busy living, loving, and laughing your way through the journey of motherhood? So, remember, in this beautiful chaos called parenting, it's okay to let go, breathe, and enjoy the journey, guilt-free.

Tiffany daSilva

Tiffany DaSilva is the founder of and lover of all things self care, chihuahuas and cross stitch. You can read her posts about how she handles the day to day using mindfulness and self care here on Pitter Patter! Flowjo's lifestyle blog.

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